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Post by tarrant on Jan 27, 2009 21:07:51 GMT
Might just be that some women get disallusioned with the crap sex they're men are giving them and so prefer a meal  Good that you brought that up. Have you actually told your partner what it is you want? If he still won't listen then frankly, he's a jerk. But no offence intended to you. I've been with my wife for 26 years and she still won't tell me. Perhaps that's just her. She is a very straight laced lady and comes from a very strict background. |
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Post by Libby on Jan 27, 2009 21:16:27 GMT
No disrespect meant to your wife tarrant, but she probably prefers food purely because she won't reveal her likes etc., so she's never really satisfied by anything other than a meal or a bar of choccy?! The same goes for a lot of women. Men aren't mindreaders after all. It's our own fault really. Far better to be upfront about it all. Better for both parties. Then a bar of chocolate can be an added extra and not an alternative! After all there's chocolate body paint lol!  |
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Post by feral on Jan 27, 2009 21:22:32 GMT
Might just be that some women get disallusioned with the crap sex they're men are giving them and so prefer a meal Good that you brought that up. Have you actually told your partner what it is you want? If he still won't listen then frankly, he's a jerk. But no offence intended to you. I've been with my wife for 26 years and she still won't tell me. Perhaps that's just her. She is a very straight laced lady and comes from a very strict background. I said " some women " .I wasn't alluding to myself I have no need to tell my partner what I want .He knows . |
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Post by feral on Jan 27, 2009 21:27:08 GMT
Men aren't mindreaders after all.
I wouldn't have thought they needed to be mindreaders.Surely anyone can notice if a partner is enjoying something or not : Hear a groan or two of pleasure ,see a smile ,feel a response . Etc etc etc ....
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Post by Libby on Jan 27, 2009 21:31:11 GMT
Ah but that's assuming the guy is doing whatever you like in the first place! An oooh or an aaah isn't possible if he's not even attempting it! lol! You know what i mean lol! That's why some need to be shown or told!  |
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Post by feral on Jan 27, 2009 21:52:06 GMT
Oh I know what you mean .If they ain't getting an oohh or an aaahhh it should be telling them that you aren't enjoying it and they should try something else.And keep on trying till they get an ohhh or an ahhhh.If they don't I really cant see how laying it out like a text book is going to help much.That's all very clinical :" First press button B followed by a stroke of button A and a nibble at button C "
Good grief ! Where's the romance ?
And then again there's the point that if you really are attuned to one another you should be oohhing and ahhhing no matter what you're doing
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Post by Libby on Jan 27, 2009 21:54:58 GMT
Too right! lol! Mind you it's all ooohs and aaahs at the beginning, it's keeping the ooohs and aaahs going that's the secret! lol! |
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Post by sweet soul on Jan 27, 2009 23:07:08 GMT
Im hungry
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Post by tarrant on Jan 28, 2009 0:06:19 GMT
That's all very clinical :" First press button B followed by a stroke of button A and a nibble at button C " Good grief ! Where's the romance ? And then again there's the point that if you really are attuned to one another you should be oohhing and ahhhing no matter what you're doing That isn't what I meant. But you clearly have the same problem that all women seem to suffer from in actually saying what it is you want. Men and women think very differently. Our brains work very differently. But if you want something from someone you have to try to tell them on their terms. I do, somewhat regret now, citing my wife. I was attempting to be constructive. I can assure you though that marriages don't last 26 years without a considerable degree of mutual comprehension. |
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Post by feral on Jan 28, 2009 0:33:43 GMT
But you clearly have the same problem that all women seem to suffer from in actually saying what it is you want.I really dont know how you've come to the conclusion that I have a problem.I said I dont need to say what I want because my partner knows, not that I am unable to .I can assure you neither of us suffer because of that I also don't need to say what I want because I want and enjoy it all and so does my partner . I had an ex who asked me what I wanted once .I told him .He took note.And it was a catastrophe .Because I felt that he was merely doing by rota what I wanted .That took all enjoyment away from it .Want has to be a mutual thing to be enjoyable for me .
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Post by puffin on Jan 28, 2009 0:34:04 GMT
Ermmmmm ... I guess not.
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Post by tarrant on Jan 28, 2009 1:44:35 GMT
I am sorry. I shouldn't have joined in this discussion.
I was just trying to make the point that if you want something then you have to say so and not assume that, since he doesn't understand he doesn't care.
I won't say any more. I apologise for upsetting you.
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Post by Scooby Do on Jan 28, 2009 6:58:22 GMT
Very true feral! At least you can rely on a bar of chocolate giving great results every time! lol! Only kidding guys! Some men think the same about masturbation, but I'm not one of them |
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Post by feral on Jan 28, 2009 11:08:12 GMT
I won't say any more. I apologise for upsetting you.
Good heavens,Tarrant .You do jump to some odd conclusions .Now what on earth made you think I was upset ?
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Post by Libby on Jan 28, 2009 22:05:01 GMT
I guess that's an example of a classic case of guys misunderstanding females feral lol! |
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Post by feral on Jan 28, 2009 22:28:51 GMT
Probably misunderstood cos I didnt say what I wanted ,libby ;D
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Post by tarrant on Jan 28, 2009 23:20:40 GMT
I have a feeling I'm being goaded. OK I deserve it.  |
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Post by Beachcomber on Jan 29, 2009 12:37:58 GMT
Just scanned this thread and found one of my posts from a couple of nights ago. I must've been pi**ed when I wrote it and I've deleted it. Sorry ...........  |
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