sushimo
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Post by sushimo on Jan 9, 2009 19:18:07 GMT
I have an 18 year old Grandson, he has a smashing g/friend a year older than him. Both are doing college/jobs/apprenticeship, earning good money, but both live at home and pay their way there.
We are going to Florida in June for 2 weeks, it's a special birthday for Himself, and we'd like some of the family out with us, so - having timeshares we have booked up en masse. Lots of his family are going, in fact it's gonna be a bit of a do!!
Grandson is currently residing with Dad and Step Mum (convenient for his job), she is an ogre tbh, but has said that he cannot come on this trip, though the g/f has just told her parents she is going and they are happy with that.
She is adamant that she is the boss, that he cannot come, that there is something perverse about a Grandma wanting to take her 18 year old G/son on holiday (??), so he cannot go, end of.
What is your advice to me? His Dad is a wuss of the highest degree, a 'yes dear' bloke. Should I force the issue, the lad and his girl were so excited when I asked them to come along, or let the "pregnant dog" get her own way - what would you do?
I am off out for a while now, so not being ignorant to any replies btw!
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Post by yord on Jan 9, 2009 19:23:44 GMT
tell grandson he can shack up with girl friend at your place when your away . Feed step mam to the gaiters.
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Post by nicebutdim on Jan 9, 2009 19:34:18 GMT
He`s 18 years old for goodness sake! He`s earning money, paying his own way at home; it`s not as if they`re providing for him.
Tell her to take a running ...............
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Post by puffin on Jan 9, 2009 19:43:46 GMT
Your grandson needs to get dad on his side. If he's still living at home he can't afford to antagonise them both.
Ask him to have a talk to his dad on his own and tell him how much he really wants to go. Ask him for his help in talking her round. She would find it harder to resist pressure from both of them and your son might find his balls if your grandson appeals to him for his help...man to man.
It's worth a try anyway.
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Post by Brittles on Jan 9, 2009 19:53:16 GMT
18 and he's being told where he can go holiday?
Sushi your G/S has to stand up for himself - he's an adult and he should tell his dad and the Steppie that he's going. End of.
They won't bounce him out onto the pavement but if they do it won't be the end of the world for him as by the sounds of it he has plenty of family around to help out at least temporarily.
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Post by Libby on Jan 9, 2009 23:43:36 GMT
I totally agree! He is 18 years old, an adult! It's completely up to him whether he goes along or not. If he wants to go, then go! The best thing would be for him to approach his Dad and explain that he knows it might cause a problem with his step-mum, but he is an adult and he wants to go and that's that! With all the troubles in the World, the step-mum wants something to whinge about! How petty and unreasonable is she being! Mad woman! Let the lad live his life, be responsible and make his own decisions. How on Earth can she expect to make decisions for him - perhaps he should have a word with her too and tell her where it's at! lol! Politely put her in her place.
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Post by chris on Jan 10, 2009 7:19:39 GMT
I was scrolling down composing a reply when I saw yours Captain, exactly what I was going to write.
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sushimo
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Post by sushimo on Jan 10, 2009 9:38:44 GMT
Thanks for the replies, they do confirm my own views, and I may just send these to him!
However, he doesn't have any other family close to where he is living at the moment. He needs to be there for access to his job/college. It would cost him plenty in time and money having to do 60 mile round trips every day for what is a 10 hour day including study time. And he does need this job!
The Dad is not my son Puffin, he's my ex son on law, my daughter lives on the other side of the country, and her input will just be totally ignored by the 2nd wife!
I'll let you know how we get on, I just needed to confirm that my opinion - he's 18, a man, can do his own thing so long as he advises where he's going, when he'll be back (roughly) - is correct.
Thanks to all, appreciate your help.
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Post by Libby on Jan 10, 2009 21:03:39 GMT
No probs, any time! Good Luck!  |
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Post by Foxy on Jan 12, 2009 17:59:16 GMT
good luck Sushi - I think the right tack is to try and get Dad on board first .... but if Dad stays firmly on the fence, then he must decide what he wants to do
PS my son's grandma takes him on all sorts of trips. Educating / broadening horizons etc is what grandparents do for heavens sake!
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