No Sex On First Date?!

[yord]

is your dad very ugly

[vania]

A quick question for the 'no sex before marriage' brigade. Did you ever worry that you and your partner wouldn't be sexually compatible?

I mean what if you were married and realised your partner was asexual or really conservative. How would that have affected your relationship?

[yord]

oysters then , i couldnt spell crustrations

[yord]

"A quick question for the 'no sex before marriage' brigade. Did you ever worry that you and your partner wouldn't be sexually compatible?2

NOOOOOOOOOOOO sex is for making babies and on no account to be enjoyable

[VikingHumpingWitch]

Jan 21, 2009 16:37:04 GMT @vania said:

A quick question for the 'no sex before marriage' brigade. Did you ever worry that you and your partner wouldn't be sexually compatible?

I mean what if you were married and realised your partner was asexual or really conservative. How would that have affected your relationship?

I'm not sure you could call Dwad a brigade.

What about if your partner turned out to be much more adventurous than you are?

[yord]

strange woman

[vania]

I couldn't be arsed to read the whole thread so I decided to be kind and assume there was a brigade.

I was in a relationship with someone who was a sexual conservative and I could not imagine spending my entire life with someone like that. Sex, for me at least, is an important part of a relationship.

[yord]

What about if your partner turned out to be much more adventurous than you are?

You marry them and swear undying love ?

[feral]

Jan 21, 2009 16:39:25 GMT yord said:

oysters then , i couldnt spell crustrations

you still cant lmao
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[radge]

its an important part of a sexual relationship i have to say its not very important to me and my sisters relationship

[vania]

You know what I mean you pedant you!

[feral]

Jan 21, 2009 16:43:14 GMT yord said:

What about if your partner turned out to be much more adventurous than you are?

You marry them and swear undying love ?

Actually I think its more of a case that you marry them ,swear undying love ,make them swear it as well and do your damndest to make your partner feel terribly guilty if he/ she ever fancies a bit elsewhere

[VikingHumpingWitch]

I think it would be worse if I married someone I'd never been to bed with only to discover that they had all manner of wild sexual fantasies that scared the living crap out of me. At least if they were the boring one you could grit your teeth and accept that you're just never going to have the sex life you desire, if you're the boring one imagine the guilt.

[vania]

Nah for me both would be sh*t. I wouldn't feel guilty if I was slightly more conservative. I've had weird requests which I have said 'no' to without the slightest bit of guilt. But the thought of having boring sex for life? I would have to keep a 'mister'.

[VikingHumpingWitch]

Jan 21, 2009 16:53:46 GMT @vania said:

Nah for me both would be sh*t. I wouldn't feel guilty if I was slightly more conservative. I've had weird requests which I have said 'no' to without the slightest bit of guilt. But the thought of having boring sex for life? I would have to keep a 'mister'.

I've had weird requests that I have declined without feeling guilty, but then I hadn't made the poor sod wait for years and then pledge eternal faithfulness to me before doing so.

[vania]

FAir point. Although even if I had made a poor sod wait years, I'd still say no to him pissing on me without guilt.

[VikingHumpingWitch]

I suppose you can get round it by discussing your sexual fantasies beforehand, but again, the idea of finally having sex after you've been through many/a conversational rehearsal is just immensely unappealing.

[dwad]

Jan 21, 2009 16:37:04 GMT @vania said:

A quick question for the 'no sex before marriage' brigade. Did you ever worry that you and your partner wouldn't be sexually compatible?

I mean what if you were married and realised your partner was asexual or really conservative. How would that have affected your relationship?

No, for two reasons. Firstly if you date somebody for a while and you're not having sex, the subject does crop up. You're not completely blind to it.

Secondly, assuming you're in the same ball park roughly the detail is fairly irrelevant as you have a strong relationship without it and you are both starting from the same point.

[VikingHumpingWitch]

Jan 21, 2009 16:59:37 GMT dwad said:

Secondly, assuming you're in the same ball park roughly the detail is fairly irrelevant as you have a strong relationship without it and you are both starting from the same point.

Now this just breaks my heart (well it doesn't really, because you say you're happy and I have no reason to disbelieve you). The detail is fairly irrelevant?

I hope you spend hours trawling the Internet for kinky porn. I mean that sincerely, because I think you're a really decent bloke and you deserve a good life. Including sex.

[vania]

Well you're not in the same ball park as you probably don't know the full extent of your sexuality. I just wonder what would happen if you did it, one party realised they hate it and one realised they love it. Then what?